How Are Your Actions Affecting Your Relationships?

Do you ever find yourself fuming over something your kids did, only to lash out at them with biting words and drastic punishments?

In these moments, it can be challenging to take a step back and see the situation for what it truly is. Chances are, it’s not that big of a deal.

We may get angry, but we can’t let our anger determine the severity of our punishments.

I frequently remind myself of the words of Viktor E. Frankl. Frankl was an Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist as well as a Holocaust survivor. He said, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

When you find yourself in a frustrating situation with your kids, ask yourself, “Is what I’m considering doing right now an appropriate response to their actions?”

Consider also how your reactions affect your relationships. If we are angry and hateful in response to our kids’ disobedience, what is that doing to our relationship? Are we “beating them into submission” at the expense of fostering a safe, loving, and secure relationship?

Let’s go back to Frankl’s words. We have the power to choose our response to any circumstance. In our response lies our growth and freedom.

Are you choosing responses that are growing your relationships with your kids and freeing you to be a kinder and more loving mama? Or are your responses crippling those relationships because you’ve become a slave to your emotions? Take some time this week to make use of the space between the stimuli of your life and your responses.

How do you handle your emotions in regards to your responses to your children’s behavior? Share in the comment section below!







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  1. Love this! It’s so true – how often do we create the punishment based on how irritated WE are vs. what really makes sense for the child? I’m an advocate of “parent time-outs” to calm us down. Counting, stepping back for a minute, taking a few deep breaths – all of these help us to reset a bit before we enforce a consequence for our child’s actions…and ensure that the consequence isn’t just created out of our own short temper. 🙂