As mamas, we have so many demands on our time, pulling us in so many different directions. Many of us have a hard time focusing on what we’re doing and being fully present. If we’re at work, we’re thinking about everything we have to do when we get home. When we’re with the kids, we’re thinking about what we’re going to make for dinner and how badly the house needs to be cleaned. When we’re cleaning the house or working on a project, we feel like we should be spending time with our kids.
- Whatever we’re doing, we’re not doing well.
- When we’re distracted, we’re going to spend more time on any given task, leaving less time for the other things we’re thinking out.
- We’re not fully present with our loved ones.
- When my daughter wants my attention and I’m on my phone or the computer, she’ll come up and swat my phone away or push my laptop screen down. She recognizes that I’m present but absent.
When you’re with your kids, remind yourself of the impact that time together has on them now, and the deposits you’re making towards their future. You are investing in them, and it will benefit them for years to come. No time spent fully present with your kids is ever wasted.
Don’t feel guilty for leaving tasks left unfinished. Keep your to-do list to a minimum—the bare essentials—on any given day. Know when you’re going to complete those tasks and be committed to that. This will allow you to be fully present when you’re with your loved ones. When you’re fully present in the time you do spend with your kids, you can cut down on the guilt you may feel when you’re away from your kids because that time with them is quality time.
This week, make it a point to be fully present in whatever you’re doing—working, cleaning, spending time with your spouse, playing with your kids…whatever it may be. Take note of how this impacts your time with your loved ones. Then, come back and share your experience in a comment below!