It’s Not You, Facebook, It’s Me: Why I’m Breaking Up with My News Feed

Have you ever hopped on your phone or computer to browse Facebook for “just a few minutes,” only to find yourself getting sucked into mindlessly scrolling through your Feed? Do you ever feel confused, annoyed, or frustrated once you finally snap out of it? For me, this seems to be happening more and more, especially in light of recent goings-on in our country. I almost always end up putting my phone down thinking, “Well there’s 20 minutes of my life I’ll never get back.”

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You’d think the issue is the negativity all over Facebook, right?

I wish I could say it were that simple. While yes, there’s no doubt about the fact that Facebook is full of bullies, angry and hurting people, tragic news stories, and sleazy politics, those in and of themselves are not the issue for me.

The issue is what I feel happening to my heart when I see those things. I feel myself getting irritated with people I care about and judging them. I feel myself losing hope for our world. I feel my heart hardening. I start comparing myself to others.

I reflect on these feelings and know that they are not from the Lord nor are they of the Lord. If I am to strive to maintain a pure heart, I need to guard my heart.

As much as I love keeping up with the people I care about, I can’t allow myself to be flooded with all the negativity interwoven throughout the cute pictures, celebrations, and announcements. If I can’t control the unhealthy way I react to the negativity in my Feed, then I need to avoid it altogether. I have no business exposing my heart to it.

I’m not sticking my head in a hole, here. I’m being deliberate about what I surround myself with. If I want my life to be positive and my actions to speak the Lord’s Truth, I need to surround myself with positivity and Truth. It doesn’t mean denying the world around me. It simply means refusing to allow the bad to corrode to good.

Could I go through my friends list and unfollow a bunch of people and leave only the ones that inspire me and speak life? Sure, but that’s far from effective use of my time at this point. So for now, I say farewell to my News Feed. It’s time to surround myself with only good things that fill my life with hope, joy, and peace.

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2 thoughts on “It’s Not You, Facebook, It’s Me: Why I’m Breaking Up with My News Feed

  1. YES! I know the feeling. I’ll log into Facebook to look something up and then 30 minutes later find myself trying to remember why I went there in the first place. I can also relate the judging. I’ve hidden so many people because I can’t stand how their posts make me feel about them.

    How are you dealing with getting rid of your newsfeed? I deleted the Facebook app from my phone and use an app in Chrome called Kill News Feed. But I’m always open to suggestions.

    Good luck and Happy healing!

    • Thanks for sharing Holly! Sometimes I’ll get on my phone to do something, check Facebook, put my phone down, then realize I didn’t do what I wanted to on my phone (that wasn’t even Facebook-related!).

      Isn’t it awful how people’s posts can make us feel about them? It’s so sad! It could be someone I LOVE spending time with in person, but I see their Facebook post and I want to throw my phone against the wall >_< I haven't heard about that app in Chrome on your phone. I'll have to look that up. Sometimes I'll "just check the first post that pops up," and most of the time it's something fine and even something I'm glad I saw and could comment on. But those posts don't make it worth the possibility that I would see those other posts that irritate me. Plus, my world isn't going to come to an end if I miss people's Facebook posts! It really has become a matter of obedience to the Lord in guarding my heart. I'm definitely going to check out Kill News Feed. My problem is I use Facebook primarily for my business, so I don't want to delete the app. I moved it off my home screen, but I've gotten so used to swiping down on my screen, typing "f" and the Facebook app popping up, that it pretty much has negated the benefit of moving the app off my home screen. Crazy stuff. And then there's the constant checking for likes and comments, like from the pix I posted from my son's birthday party yesterday. Digital dopamine—it's a real thing: http://www.organicauthority.com/health/are-you-addicted-to-digital-dopamine.html

      I just have to go back to being very intentional about my Facebook use and remembering what I really want to use it for.

      Hey, thanks for checking out my post, Holly, and again, for sharing your experience!