Lessons Learned from a Health Crisis

Some of you may have noticed that I dropped off of social media in November and haven’t written a blog post since. Unfortunately, I had some health issues arise. I was unable to keep up with my regularly scheduled social media posts, blog posts, Midweek Mindfulness, and so on. I didn’t notify you all that anything was going on until several weeks in, and for that I apologize.

Anyway, it’s great to be back! I learned a lot during this experience.

health-crisisI want to share these lessons with you:

This next point speaks to something crucial I left out in the self-care post:

  • Speaking of taking care of our kids…LET OTHER PEOPLE HELP YOU.
    • I was pretty much doing everything all the time for my kids, rarely having anyone to help out.
      • It seemed like “too much of a hassle” to pack up whatever was needed to send my daughter off with someone, so I didn’t ask for it.
      • I also didn’t ask because I didn’t want to inconvenience anyone or make them feel obligated to watch my kid.
    • When you let people help you, take a chill pill.
      • They’re not always going to do things the way you want them to.
      • They won’t do things “as well as I can.” But you know what, your kids are going to turn out fine. It’s all about balance. If you want things perfect all the time, you’re in for a very stressful and isolated life.
    • When I was sick, Jeremy and I were forced to allow other people to help us. Things may not have been done exactly the way I wanted them to, but that’s okay. My kids were cared for, and that’s what matters.
  • You’re allowed to be weak.
    • Don’t feel like you have to be strong and on top of things all the time. You’re allowed to be weak. You’re allowed to ask for help. Seek help. Don’t fee like you have to “pull yourself up by your bootstraps.” That’s not always possible or reasonable.
  • No matter what crisis you are facing, believe that somehow, God can redeem it.
    • I didn’t believe this when I was sick. I wasn’t even close to believing it. I cried out to God so many times asking “why” and wondering how good could possibly come from what I was going through. But without that experience, I wouldn’t be the person I am today (I know, it’s a grossly overused statement, but it’s true for me so I’m using it). I wouldn’t have this post to share with you (which eventually will become more than a blog post). I hope my words will encourage you and others.
    • It may not always be “okay.” Some people feel like they have to say, “Don’t worry, it’ll all be okay.” Well, “okay” is pretty darn subjective. Sometimes things turn out pretty crappy. Natural disasters happen. People face unspeakable diagnoses. People die. Things turn out “not okay.” But remember, God can bring good from devastation if we open our hearts to the lessons He can teach us and open our arms to the warmth of His Son’s embrace.
    • It’s okay to not “feel God’s presence” during a crisis. Some people feel his presence more than ever, while others wonder where in the heck He went. But He’s always there. If you’ve run from Him, He’ll patiently wait for you. God will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6).

If you or someone you know is facing a crisis, I hope these words may be of some comfort or encouragement to you. We can’t (and shouldn’t) do this alone, Mamas. We need to take care of ourselves. We need to let others in. We need to allow ourselves to be weak. We need to believe that some way, somehow, God can bring good out of the situation.

I love you.

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