Do you ever find yourself barking at your kids, “Hurry up! Get moving! Let’s go!!”?
Say we’re late getting out the house and we’re running around like maniacs to hurry everyone out the door. Are we really saving time? How critical is it, exactly, that we save ourselves maybe a couple minutes by rushing?
What I’ve found is when I rush, I end up:
- Running into things (often hurting myself)
- Spilling things (slows me down)
- Getting irritable with my husband (ugh)
- Snapping at my daughter, although she has done and is doing nothing wrong (double ugh)
I hate when I rush because I feel anxious, my stomach gets upset, and my body pretty much goes into panic mode in my hurry to get out the door. I don’t want this to be how my daughter views her mother, nor do I want this to be what she believes to be the status quo. I don’t want her to end up constantly running around, rushed and anxious.
One of the best lessons I’ve learned as a parent is to plan in buffer time. Even before we had kids, I’d ask my husband to give me a departure time 15 minutes earlier than when we actually have to leave. This extra time prevents us from constantly hurrying from one destination to the next, too often running late to gatherings and appointments. We add a solid 15-30 minutes of cushion time to just about everything we plan as a family.
Having this time completely changes the flow of our day. We can relax and breathe. We can enjoy getting ready and heading out the door. We can talk or sing in the car without worrying how late we’ll be. We can fully focus on loving on each other.
If you haven’t already implemented something like this into your family’s routine, I encourage you to give it a shot this week. Then come back and comment below on how things went!