Since we have been married, neither Jeremy nor I has not had the “typical” roles that you would see in a marriage (at least what was considered standard in decades past). While our roles are different than what some may expect, we’ve always worked together well as a team and parented as a team.
Since I began my entrepreneurial journey, our roles have changed even more.
It has taken some time for me to stop feeling guilty because I don’t complete certain tasks I think I *should* as a wife and mother. Jeremy and I have come to agreements on who does what to make our family life flow as smoothly as possible. I’ve dropped the guilt and started feeling grateful.
With me taking care of the kids during the day and working in the evenings, it doesn’t leave much room for family time with the four of us together during the week, but that’s the sacrifice we’re willing to make at this point. We get our quality time as a family on the weekends.
What Jeremy and I have discussed is that while I may do things that aren’t typical for a wife and he may do things that aren’t typical for a husband, we are doing the things that play to each of our strengths. He does things well that I do not. I do things well that he does not. If certain things are strengths or weaknesses for both of us, we decide who will do what and leave it at that.
Whether you’re beginning your journey as family or are well into your journey (and especially as you prepare for baby), Be sure to clearly define your roles and responsibilities. They may change over time, and that’s okay. Just make sure there is an understanding and agreement between Mom and Dad on who does what and when. When you work as a team, you can’t go wrong. As the kids get older, give them responsibilities to bring them on as teammates (and to lighten your load).
How do you work as a team? Comment below with the roles Mom and Dad (and the kids) have in your family life.