There’s no denying it. Life with an infant can be pretty chaotic.
The crying…the lack of sleep…the pooping…the doctors appointments…being halfway to your destination when you realize you left the diaper bag at home…forgetting the formula…spilling 15 ounces of breastmilk…spit up on your face…baby food splattered all over the floor…the list goes on and on. Oh yeah, and the countless Google searches because you’re convinced that the little spot on the back of your baby’s leg is the plague.
What if I told you you could cut out some of the chaos? (Whaaaaaaat??)
Yep, it’s true!
Here are some tips for doing so:
- How much of your chaos comes from you trying to do it all?
- You don’t have to be Supermom. (Please, don’t even strive for it. She’s really not that great).
- No, things won’t always be done the way you want them to. You’re going to have to let go of control if you want anyone to help you.
- If someone asks if you want help, take them up on their offer NOW.
- Reach out to people! Even people you think don’t want to help. They might surprise you.
- Part of being Supermom is being a “yes” mom. Remember: don’t be Supermom. Don’t be a “yes” mom.
- When you say yes to everyone else, you’re saying no to yourself.
- Even when you say yes to good things for yourself, you’re usually saying “no” to better things for yourself. Say “yes” to the things that truly matter and that will fill your cup.
Strip things down to the bare necessities.
- Write a list of what you do each day of the week in a typical week.
- Which of these things do you LOVE doing?
- Which of these things could you outsource? Could you find people to do those things for free? If not, could you put it in your budget to pay for those things? Just imagine – you could skip the Starbucks and hire someone to clean your house every week instead. Uhh…awesome, right?
- Which of these things could you eliminate? COMPLETELY eliminate. Remember, don’t be a “yes” person.
- Set the precedent when your kids are young that you refuse to live a life of constant chaos.
Create buffer time.
- Do you feel like you’re constantly rushing from one thing to the next? Are you always late? Chances are, you’re living with an unrealistic idea of how time works when you have a baby. Just plan on everything taking twice as long as you think it should.
- Set your departure time 15 minutes early (or even 30 minutes) whenever you’re going somewhere. If you leave right at your departure time, great! If not, you have that buffer time built in.
There is no magic wand to make your life less hectic. However, you do have more control than you think.
What can you do this week to cut out some of the chaos? Share in a comment below!