I spent a majority of my Monday feeling incredibly frustrated. The stresses of my mounting to-list cycled through my thoughts: Ugh, so many dishes. The floors are a disaster. Laundry is piling up. I need to make our protein bars. Crap, I gotta make wipes too. And laundry detergent. How am I going to get all this done? I need to scan paperwork and contact our accountant. Like, last week. I need to call and make payments on medical bills. Having a kid is so expensive. It’s enough to make me not want any more. It’s been months since I’ve written our Compassion kid (gosh I’m a terrible person). I haven’t been getting Margaret on the potty today. She’s never going to be potty trained. Our house is always going to be a mess. I completely suck at this stay at home mom gig.
There are sooooo many things wrong with this hot mess of a broken record that was playing in my head.
Let’s break it down.
I’m going to look at some of the issues with the thoughts that often go through our minds and what we can do about them.
Think about your own situation and the thoughts you may struggle with.
- Constantly repeating in your head and getting frustrated about all the things you need to do.
What to do:
- Recognize what needs to be done. Write it down if needed.
- Refuse to fret over everything that needs to be done and the fact that you haven’t gotten those things done yet. You’re wasting your energy.
- TAKE ACTION. Get something done (preferably the thing that’s most urgent and important).
- Making harsh judgments of yourself based on your frustrations.
What to do:
- Refuse to judge yourself simply because a task has been left undone or because you’re not living up to your [probably too high] standards.
- Know that your actions (or inaction) don’t define who you are. You are awesome, regardless of your mounting to-do list.
- Making drastic/dramatic generalizations about your life/future based on your current situation.
What to do:
- Recognize that you might just be in a crappy place right now. You’re frustrated beyond belief. That’s okay. Accept it.
- Remember that this will pass. If your circumstance or issue is ongoing and you can’t do anything to change it, choose to adjust your attitude towards it. There’s no use fretting over what you can’t change.
We’re all going to have days when we just want to throw our arms up in the air and say screw it. But you know what happens when we do that? We set ourselves up for even more days like that!
We have to learn to accept things as they are and then decide what we’re going to do about it. Too much of our energy is spent complaining about or dreading things we have to do. What a waste!
We have to stop beating ourselves up so darn much! We’re imperfect. We’re messy. We make mistakes. You know what else? We’re awesome. We’re powerful. We have what it takes to make things better!
We have to stop being overly dramatic. We make things way too difficult and stressful for ourselves. We have to adjust our attitude and start putting a positive spin on things.
Here’s a good first step that can help with all of the issues I’ve mentioned:
Get outside yourself. Let someone know they’re appreciated. Thank God that you have laundry to wash, food to prepare, a job go to, a car to get stuck in traffic, and a kid to drive you nuts.
Attitude is everything. It will make you or break you. Let it make you a force to be reckoned with. Don’t let anything stop you from doing what you want to do and being who you want to be. Be strong. Be fierce. Be unstoppable.